It’s the excuse to silence all other excuses – I can’t travel, or live in another country, or work for a while, or apply for a visa, because I can’t possible leave those I love and adore behind in my home country.
I get it, I really do. Leaving my home in Sydney to go on exchange in England last year was the most exhilarating thing I’ve ever done and I wanted it more than anything, but as the weeks neared my departure, I started to focus all my energy on worrying about those I was leaving behind – would our relationships all stay the same when I was to return 7 months later? How much would change while I was away? Would there be things I needed to be there for but couldn’t?
In answer to these, and without going in to details, there was an absolute avalanche of personal things going on with people I love and care about back in Sydney while I was in Lancaster. And you know what? I couldn’t do a thing about them except be there for those people as much as I could from afar. Because of all this, I ended up back home during Easter break – it just goes to show that sometimes you have to make the best of the situation and do all you can in your power to make things work.
But, had I known that all of this was going to happen, would I still have gone on exchange? ABSOLUTELY
2016 was easily the best and hardest years of my life, and although some people may deem personal growth, travel and experience as selfish, I know it’s made me the young woman I am today, who is a lot more sure of herself, confident in her opinions and decisions, and a lot more independent.
Before last year, I had never travelled without my parents any further than Melbourne. I had never lived alone, never had to care for myself or do my own washing, and never had the complete freedom to do whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted. Call me sheltered, but 7 months abroad really changed my perspective on life, myself, independence and, believe it or not, made me realise just how special home is, too.
For those of you unsure of what will happen if you go travelling for a few months, or go and work for a year overseas, or just leave the place you’ve nurtured as your home for your whole life…just go. If you want to go, just do it. There really will never be a perfect time, and there are always things to tie you down. BUT honestly and from experience, absolutely nothing changes back home that you can’t slot right back into when you return. Friends may be a year older (and yes, the FOMO is real when you miss the parties) but they’re still your friends – technology is a life saver with this one, too. Family issues may arise, but guess what, you might be miles away but you’re still a part of the family. And they will involve you in any and every decision you should be a part of.
Instead of focusing your energy on what you’re leaving behind, take this as a sign that you should manifest the wonderful things you’re going to experience when you step forward and live the life you want to live, or go the places you want to go. The whole world is, quite literally, waiting for you xx